My partner is a raging Swiftie and I want him to tone it down. His life revolves around Taylor Swift and worships her but it's embarrassing since he's a grown man. How do I get him to stop wearing T-shirts and making his life all about Taylor?
More sex maybe? Less sex as punishment? I dunno. Society’s celebrity obsession is unlike anything we’ve ever seen before. Fans are extreme. I agree with you that it’s quite concerning. I’ve even seen posts/memes about it online. Essentially people mocking those diehard fans and questioning whether the millionaires and billionaires give a shit about them. Why put so much time, effort, praise, idolization and devotion into someone who doesn’t even know you exist? Actually, that might even be a great way to mention it to him.
There’s nothing wrong with being a fan but I think the way you worded it is perfect: you’re an adult, why are you fanning out like some teenager who’s about to faint because Taylor Swift looked in their general direction? I’m not saying attack and insult him, just say it doesn’t seem like he’s acting his age by having a celebrity obsession. If you feel like Taylor is getting more attention than you, that’s also a fair point to make. Why is a billionaire celebrity getting more of his love than you are?
What would happen if you feigned interest in another celebrity or musical act and went to the extreme just to get your point across? Start talking about him or her endlessly and bring up useless facts and watch videos while your partner’s trying to talk to you. And make it someone he doesn’t like. Who’s someone that he says makes terrible music and has no talent? THAT is who you start to idolize to make your point.
I feel the same way when I see adults wearing Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles shirts. I’m so tempted to say, “Excuse me, sir, how old do you think you are? And how old are you really? OK, thanks. And single, right?” and walk away – hoping he’ll take a moment to let my point sink in. Then again, maybe I’m just an asshole like that.