I was pretty drunk when I met someone at Pride. In the moment I expressed interest and we made out a bit. Now that I think about everything (and sobered up) I kinda regret it. Am I a dick if I ghost?
A drunken Pride makeout? That NEVER happens!
It's a celebration of love, acceptance and, sometimes, regrettable decisions fueled by a bit too much celebratory cheer. You met someone, whored it up a bit and now you're haunted by a makeout sesh that you'd rather forget -- and possibly someone who won't leave you alone because you're just THAT good a kisser.
So, to answer your question after that mockery: yes, ghosting can be a dick move. It leaves the other person hanging, wondering and potentially feeling rejected without understanding why. Nobody deserves that ambiguity, especially after making a connection, however brief and boozy. (Remember, YOU were drunk but were they? Maybe their head was a little more clear.)
You weren't exactly stone-cold sober and expressing interest doesn't obligate you to a relationship, a date or even a follow-up text. The key here is navigating the situation with the least amount of harm.
So, what's the alternative to ghosting? A brief, honest message. Something along the lines of, "Hey! It was great meeting you at Pride. I had a lot of fun, but after some thought, I don't think we're a match. Wishing you all the best!"
It's simple, direct and acknowledges the interaction without leading them on. This way, you're taking responsibility for your feelings and giving them closure.
Now, I know what you're thinking: "But that's awkward! Confrontational!" And yes, it might be a little uncomfortable -- especially if you engage in the back-and-forth battle. Don't. A little momentary awkwardness is better than potentially causing someone genuine hurt and confusion? Ghosting means leaving them hanging, so not responding after sending that isn't the same thing.
Ultimately, the decision is yours. But before you hit that block button, consider the kind of person you want to be. Choose kindness, choose communication and choose to leave the Pride festivities with your conscience clear. You might be surprised how much better you feel.