I just started my relationship and only recently heard about his porn past. I'm not thrilled about it but I think I love him. How do I get over this?
Is he sharing any of the money with you? Oops, gold digger moment there. Sorry.
This is the world we’re in. How many times have you seen someone on social media and thought, “Wow, he/she is hot” and then seen the link to find their paid porn content? We would’ve been clutching our pearls 10 years ago because there was a stigma to being naked for everyone to see. While there still is to a certain extent, it’s not the end of the world anymore. In fact, it’s often celebrated, the fact that people can make so much money performing in front of a camera.
You’re not thrilled about a past you can’t change. That sort of sums up the situation. Let’s flip this around: You just found out he was busted for DUI 10 years ago. You’re totally against drinking and driving but it happened. Do you dump him for it? Probably not.
Now, there’s also the idea that his content involved hundreds and hundreds of people. That would definitely give the ick factor. At the same time, you’ve likely already given up the goods and sampled his so you know what you’re getting – and potentially receiving. So, is it really a problem? Knowing he’s been with hundreds of people doesn’t change the present day. Are you willing to give up the good D for something that happened before you were in the picture? I’ll answer for you: no.
Even if you have a conversation and say you’re bothered by something, doesn’t change what his previous gig was. There’s not anything a person can say that’ll make you feel comfortable when it comes to this. “But I didn’t love them, it was just sex for money.” Real comforting, right?
Then again, you can also credit his dicking-for-dollars past for being the pro that drives you wild in the sack now. Why are you harping instead of praising? This sounds like something you need to get over quickly and thank him for his service.