He's at protests with arrests, government death threats

He's at protests with arrests, government death threats

All week my partner has been watching the L.A. protests. I thought of Buff Boy because you guys are the only ones I know in that area. With the hype of these "No Kings" protests, my partner has insisted on going. I'm all for freedom of speech and protest I just worry he's going to get caught up in a bad situation, especially since things tend to get violent and there's threats of arrests and even killing people who protest. How do I handle this?

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I'm with a him, not a them... and it's a problem

I'm with a him, not a them... and it's a problem

My boyfriend has suddenly jumped on the pronoun bandwagon and insists I refer to him as "they" and I refuse. I'm gay, I'm with a guy, I'm not with a plural. Something so strange like a pronoun is destroying my relationship.

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I think I made a sex tape at Pride

I think I made a sex tape at Pride

I think I made a sex video after a drunk Pride party, but now I'm not sure. I have flashes of memory, a knot of anxiety in my stomach and I'm terrified. I don't know if a video exists, who might have it, or what to do next.

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My partner was busted kissing someone at Pride

My partner was busted kissing someone at Pride

I was told that my partner was seen kissing someone at a Pride party. I wasn't there, there's no photo proof but I'm concerned. I trust him but I wonder if something happened. What should I do?

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My partner wants to go to every Pride event, I don't

My partner wants to go to every Pride event, I don't

My partner wants to go to every Pride event. I have no interest. It's turned into a fight that I'm not supporting him and he wants me to go. Pride is not my scene and I don't care to spend my time there. What should I do?

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In public, he won't stop sucking my...

In public, he won't stop sucking my...

OK, this might be a weird one for you! I've been with my partner for about eight months. We love going out and being social. It's often just the two of us but we enjoy being around others. Lately, he's started doing something that is a bit (maybe a lot?) creepy when we're out.

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My mom found my Pride flag... was I just outed?

My mom found my Pride flag... was I just outed?

My mom found a Pride flag in my room. I can tell because it was moved in the drawer where I keep it. I'm pretty sure it was her but I don't know. I'm not ready to come out but I feel like she knows now. What should I do?

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He told me about his 'Lego room' on a first date

He told me about his 'Lego room' on a first date

I just had a first date. Everything was going good. The conversation was a struggle at first. (It's weird how some people are more comfortable texting conversation than speaking face to face.) As things got going, he casually mentioned he has a "Lego room" at home. At first I thought it was a joke so I laughed. (Not super hard but it was a noticeable laugh.) Then he started describing it in detail. Turns out this is a hobby he'd never mentioned in the weeks of texting before we met. I think it's childish and juvenile. I compare it to an adult spending hours playing video games. I can't get over that when I think about how much I could've liked him had he not been into Lego. Do I give it a shot or give him the brush off?

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My embarrassing parents want to come to Pride with us

My embarrassing parents want to come to Pride with us

I appreciate that my parents are accepting of my being gay. In previous years they've told me to go have fun at Pride and be safe. This year, they want to come with me and my group of friends to the parties and the bars. Should I tell them no or just say I'm not doing Pride this year and go out secretly?

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My partner is a raging Swiftie and it's embarrassing as hell

My partner is a raging Swiftie and it's embarrassing as hell

My partner is a raging Swiftie and I want him to tone it down. His life revolves around Taylor Swift and worships her but it's embarrassing since he's a grown man. How do I get him to stop wearing T-shirts and making his life all about Taylor?

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Sitting across from my partner, not beside, is a problem

Sitting across from my partner, not beside, is a problem

When we go to a restaurant my partner insists on sitting beside me but I prefer sitting across the table. It's weird to me because it's so close together. It's led to fights and him wondering why I don't want to be close to him. He thinks I'm embarrassed by him.

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My partner volunteers us to dog-sit even though I'm allergic

My partner volunteers us to dog-sit even though I'm allergic

I have an allergy to dogs but my partner always volunteers us to dog-sit. He's always wanted a dog but we don't have time to take care of one full time and my allergies make it unbearable. I end up having to stay in the basement the entire time we have a dog over. Should I say something to him?

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My partner wants a big wedding, I don't

My partner wants a big wedding, I don't

I'm getting married. My partner wants a big wedding with everyone invited but I want a smaller wedding because we're trying to save money for our life together. Whose wedding should we do?

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My partner wants us to be more social, I don't

My partner wants us to be more social, I don't

I'm an introvert but my partner is an extrovert. He's the life of the party and I like staying home and having quiet nights. He insists we go out and do more but I have no interest in that. Should I be more social or should he be less social?

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My partner refuses to drive, insists we take a bus - no thanks!

My partner refuses to drive, insists we take a bus - no thanks!

It's a new relationship but my partner doesn't drive. I hate always having to drive and pick him up. He said we can take a bus to go on dates instead of me driving. Bus is incredibly inconvenient so I end up driving and it leads to fights. Should he become an adult and drive himself around?

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My partner is 'that guy' recording conflict in public

My partner is 'that guy' recording conflict in public

My partner is one of those people that whips out his phone and records conflict and drama in public. He's "that guy" that's always trying to get viral social media content of confrontations and fights. How can I tell him to stop?

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I can't sleep because my partner hogs the bed

I can't sleep because my partner hogs the bed

We have a big comfy bed but as the night goes on my husband takes up more and more of it. It's almost like he's gradually pushing me off the bed as he moves in the night. I can't sleep because he's constantly shifting. How do I finally get a good sleep?

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My partner insults with my insecurities during fights

My partner insults with my insecurities during fights

When I fight with my partner he brings up insecurities that have nothing to do with what we're fighting about just to insult me. He does it to hurt my feelings and thinks it wins him the fight. The digs sting long after the fight is over but he makes it too personal. Should I stoop to his level and make it personal or take the higher road?

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My partner has become too feminine... and it's a turnoff

My partner has become too feminine... and it's a turnoff

When I first got together with my partner he was a masculine gay man. Now he seems to be getting more and more feminine to conform to the gay culture. It's a turnoff that he's practically becoming a woman right before my eyes. Should I end the relationship?

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My partner can't sing for sh*t and won't stop doing it in public

My partner can't sing for sh*t and won't stop doing it in public

My partner sings along to music when we're in public. He starts out humming a few lines but then eventually goes into full-on singing as the music continues. It's embarrassing because he gets into it like he's in a recording studio. Yes, even does the hand on his ear when he’s reaching for a note. It's weird! How should I tell him?

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My partner is too close to my family... and I hate it

My partner is too close to my family... and I hate it

I have a decent relationship with my family but my partner is getting very close with them. I still live with them so when he comes over he goes upstairs to say hi to them before coming downstairs to my room. I know I should be happy they like each other but I don't want him being closer to my family than I am.

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