Should I finally give up on ungrateful birthday snobs?

Should I finally give up on ungrateful birthday snobs?

There are so many people I call or text and wish happy birthday to (one is my cousin) and I don't hear back. I don't just post something on their Facebook page when it reminds me it's their birthday. I actually know when it is and I reach out. I've drifted apart from some of the people but there hasn't been anything bad that's happened between us to consider it a troubled relationship. We just don't talk as often as we did. Do I stop calling and sending texts? It seems like they're unappreciative. It's one thing to respond to every comment on a Facebook page but to get a personal call or text I feel is a bit more special. I actually call and leave my cousin voice mail. I don't hear back from her. Surely these people have time to respond with "thanks!" Thoughts?

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My partner is a Disney freak and I can't handle it

My partner is a Disney freak and I can't handle it

My partner is a Disney fanatic and wants to go there every chance he gets. It's too juvenile for me. I don't mind amusement rides but I can't handle pretending to be in some fairy tale land with thousands of kids on leashes and their miserable parents. I can't exactly lie and say I have other plans since we live together and he knows my schedule. How do I ditch Disney?

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My partner is too aggressive with customer service reps

My partner is too aggressive with customer service reps

My partner is losing his patience with customer service people. He starts out understanding but as soon as he doesn't get an answer he likes or believes he's getting the runaround, his mood drastically changes. When I'm standing beside him in a store or seated across from him at a restaurant, it's embarrassing because I feel bad for the employee subjected to his wrath. I'm tempted to step in but fear he'll get louder and turn on me and everybody will know there's an issue. How do we get this under control?

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My partner wants us to use a tracking app

My partner wants us to use a tracking app

My partner had a discussion with his co-worker about how she and her husband have a tracker app on their phones. They essentially let you see where your partner (partner's phone) is at all times. They say it's so that if one of them doesn't hear from the other or there's an emergency, they'll know where they are. Or, just to have an idea how far from home one is while the other is cooking dinner and wants to have it ready. I think that's all BS. It seems like a nosy and controlling way to monitor your partner. It seems like a distrust kind of thing. Nothing has ever happened that either of us is concerned about where the other is and why and for how long. All of a sudden my partner is proposing this. I've said no but he keeps bringing it up.

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Work-from-home is great for me, bad for my dog

Work-from-home is great for me, bad for my dog

I've worked from home since the pandemic. It's been great. I don't miss going into the office every day. I've been spending a ton of time with my dog and we're closer than ever. But we're in a busy time at work and I feel guilty working from home with him trying to get my attention like he'd always had before. He follows me around and thinks we're going to play or work but really I'm just going into the other room to get something for a meeting. I'm thinking I should go back to the office a few hours a day just to get away from him so he's not so clingy all the time. What should I do?

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Should I fire good workers who are bad communicators?

Should I fire good workers who are bad communicators?

I hired a couple to do my yardwork. I saw their ad online and gave them a call. The first chat was great. The woman asked a lot of questions, I told her what I needed done. She said to give a quote for their services she'd come take a look at my yard and let me know. Perfect. She said it would be that afternoon and she'd text me after. Afternoon went. Evening went. All of a sudden my dog started growling at 9:30 p.m. and out the front window I saw two people on my sidewalk. I assumed that was them and I'd get a text. There was no text. It wasn't until the next afternoon that she sent me the quote for the job. I responded within an hour and asked when they're available. She didn't respond until the next day and said it would be Monday in the late afternoon. (So from surveying, to quote, to availability we're going on three days already.) I asked what time would work and never got a reply. All of a sudden on Monday at 8:45 p.m. I heard lawnmowers and equipment outside my window. They…

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He told me about his 'Lego room' on a first date

He told me about his 'Lego room' on a first date

I just had a first date. Everything was going good. The conversation was a struggle at first. (It's weird how some people are more comfortable texting conversation than speaking face to face.) As things got going, he casually mentioned he has a "Lego room" at home. At first I thought it was a joke so I laughed. (Not super hard but it was a noticeable laugh.) Then he started describing it in detail. Turns out this is a hobby he'd never mentioned in the weeks of texting before we met. I think it's childish and juvenile. I compare it to an adult spending hours playing video games. I can't get over that when I think about how much I could've liked him had he not been into Lego. Do I give it a shot or give him the brush off?

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My partner volunteers us to dog-sit even though I'm allergic

My partner volunteers us to dog-sit even though I'm allergic

I have an allergy to dogs but my partner always volunteers us to dog-sit. He's always wanted a dog but we don't have time to take care of one full time and my allergies make it unbearable. I end up having to stay in the basement the entire time we have a dog over. Should I say something to him?

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I spy on my flirty partner at the gym

I spy on my flirty partner at the gym

My boyfriend has two workout buddies that are incredibly hot. I'm a little bit jealous and find myself staring at them from across the gym and watching them to make sure it doesn't go anywhere between them. Should I keep watching from the corner of my eye or say something?

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My partner cries when 'his team' loses

My partner cries when 'his team' loses

My partner is too emotional... but not in the way most people would think. We've been together through one sports season. Let me explain why that matters. We started dating at the beginning of the hockey season last year. I don't care much for sports but he's into it so I went along because I had nothing better to do. He's that fan who's decked out in team gear and standing up throughout the game and screaming at the players and high-fiving people when there's a goal. That's not the embarrassing part. (Maybe it kind of is but everyone else is doing it so it's acceptable.) I saw a new side of him when his favorite team was in the playoffs. When they lost a game, he was genuinely pissed on the way home. Like, pissed to the point of grumbling and barely talking to me. I almost felt like saying, "Are you mad at me? What did I do?" and make him get out of the car and walk to his house since I was driving. When his team got into the finals he was thrilled. He was maybe too happy. And when…

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Co-workers saw my porn vids online

Co-workers saw my porn vids online

Co-workers saw my porn videos online and now I'm embarrassed to be around them. I like my job but I want to quit because it's hard to face them. What should I do?

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Is it OK to re-gift my grandma?

Is it OK to re-gift my grandma?

My grandma gave me a terrible Christmas gift. Is it OK to re-gift my grandma? I don't think she'd ever find out but I have guilty feelings before even doing it.

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My partner expects me to be just as organized as him

My partner expects me to be just as organized as him

My partner is an organized person and I appreciate that. But he's trying to push his ways onto me. (Do you remember that Seinfeld episode where Elaine confronts Jerry and says, "Everything has to be just so with you"? Well that's the story of my life.) When we travel, we have to be at the airport well in advance and he insists on holding our documents, and he's forever watching the clock. I prefer taking it easy and getting there shortly before boarding time. When we get to the hotel room, the bags have to be put in a certain area and shoes have to be the same. I keep my bathroom stuff (toothbrush, comb, etc.) in a travel bag on the counter but he unpacks and displays everything as if it's our bathroom and home and not a temporary stay. I keep my shirts and other clothes in my suitcase but he unpacks it and hangs them up in the hotel closet. He means well and I appreciate his attention to detail but I'm tempted to say, "Just do your thing and leave my stuff alone" but the last thing I…

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Should I keep ghosting my lazy housekeeper?

Should I keep ghosting my lazy housekeeper?

I recently hired a house cleaner. I saw her ad online and she's from my neighborhood so I gave her a shot. The first time she cleaned, it was amazing. It took a long time because I hadn't done a thorough clean for a while. She left the place amazing (even folded the toilet paper into a triangle point like in hotels). The second time, not so great. The third time, even more not so great. I haven't reached out for a while and she's been contacting me asking about re-booking. I've been making excuses like I'm out of town or just have too much on the go. (She only cleans when I'm home because I don't allow someone in my place when I'm not there.) I figured she'd just take the hint after not hearing from me but I think I'm faced with the awkwardness of having to say she's fired. Do I do it in a text? Call her? Or just keep making excuses and hope she gives up?

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Neighbor uses my driveway without permission. Tow him?

Neighbor uses my driveway without permission. Tow him?

My neighbors keep parking and blocking my driveway. When they do it I have to squeeze through with my car and almost scrape theirs just to fit onto my property. One time I was having company over and it was embarrassing as hell when I was showing my co-worker my new house and we couldn't use my driveway because someone was in it who doesn't belong on my property. I'm tempted to have them towed. Should I do it to make a point? I actually think that would be less awkward than having a conversation with them since I don't know them.

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My family ignored me at my birthday party... that they planned

My family ignored me at my birthday party... that they planned

My parents called and asked if I wanted to do dinner with the family for my birthday. I said yes. It was a car pool so my dad picked up everyone in their minivan (me, my two brothers and their wives). I was picked up first and ended up sitting in the very back of the van to make it easier for the others to get in. For the last pick-up, my brother and his wife jumped into the van's middle seat and said hi to everyone else but didn't even acknowledge me, let alone say Happy Birthday. When we got to the restaurant, we were an odd number (seven) and they sat us at a table for six and brought over a chair to squeeze me in at the end of the table. It was impersonal and offensive and I was largely ignored by my family the entire time. Should I confront them or just cut them off?

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Should I end my relationship because of bad sex?

Should I end my relationship because of bad sex?

My relationship is great but the sex is terrible. I've tried things to spice it up with my partner but it's not working. I love him but I worry bad sex will end it all. What should I do?

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In public, he won't stop sucking my...

In public, he won't stop sucking my...

OK, this might be a weird one for you! I've been with my partner for about eight months. We love going out and being social. It's often just the two of us but we enjoy being around others. Lately, he's started doing something that is a bit (maybe a lot?) creepy when we're out.

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I can't sleep because my partner hogs the bed

I can't sleep because my partner hogs the bed

We have a big comfy bed but as the night goes on my husband takes up more and more of it. It's almost like he's gradually pushing me off the bed as he moves in the night. I can't sleep because he's constantly shifting. How do I finally get a good sleep?

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My partner refuses to drive, insists we take a bus - no thanks!

My partner refuses to drive, insists we take a bus - no thanks!

It's a new relationship but my partner doesn't drive. I hate always having to drive and pick him up. He said we can take a bus to go on dates instead of me driving. Bus is incredibly inconvenient so I end up driving and it leads to fights. Should he become an adult and drive himself around?

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